Life is a journey of transformation, and for many LGBTQ+ individuals, coming out is one of the most profound and beautiful changes they experience. For many, just like Greisson Peiffer (from her book, “Sharing My Light & Healing Energy: Journey to True Self”), who felt like she was “hiding the best parts” of herself, stepping out of their comfort zone or coming out of their cocoons represents this change. It’s like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly—a process of growth, courage, and self-discovery that allows them to spread their wings and embrace their true selves after the time they spent inside their cocoon. It’s about breaking free from limitations, embracing vulnerability, and discovering the strength to shine after having to put up with the tiny space inside.
Imagine a caterpillar. It starts its life crawling on the ground, hidden in the safety of its surroundings. It might feel confined, unsure of its place in the world, and even afraid to show its true colors, but deep inside, it knows there’s more to life. Little did they know that they would grow through a transformation into something more beautiful and freeing. It begins to build a cocoon, a safe space where it can grow and transform. This cocoon is like the process of coming out—a time of reflection, self-acceptance, and preparation for spreading the wings of the future butterfly that it will be.
Inside the cocoon, the caterpillar undergoes a remarkable change. It’s not easy—it takes time, effort, and a lot of courage. And there is definitely nothing wrong with taking your time figuring things out. But when it finally emerges, it’s no longer the same. It is now a butterfly, vibrant and free, ready to soar into the sky. This is the beauty of coming out. It’s a journey from hiding to shining, from fear to freedom, from confusion to confidence.
For LGBTQ+ individuals, coming out is about embracing who they truly are. It’s about letting go of the fear of judgment and stepping into the light. Just like a butterfly, they discover their strength, their beauty, and their ability to fly. It’s not always easy—there may be challenges, misunderstandings, or even rejection along the way, but the act of spreading their wings, of being true to self, is incredibly empowering.
The world needs more butterflies. It needs people who are brave enough to be themselves, to show their colors, and to inspire others to do the same. When someone comes out, they not only transform their own life but also create ripples of change around them. They remind us all that it’s okay to be different, that there’s beauty in diversity, and that love is love. No matter what form it is, love will remain love.
The beauty in spreading your wings is not just in the flight—it’s in the courage it takes to take that first leap. So, let’s celebrate every butterfly, every journey, and every act of bravery. Because when we spread our wings, we inspire others to do the same. And that’s where the true beauty lies. So, if you’re on the journey of coming out, remember this: you are like that caterpillar, growing and changing in your own time. Your cocoon is your safe space, but don’t be afraid to step out of it when you’re ready. Spread your wings, embrace your true self, and fly. The world is waiting to see the beauty your wings have.
And to those who are supporting someone on this journey, be their safe space. Be the cocoon that helps them grow, the wind beneath their wings that helps them soar. Together, we can create a world where everyone feels free to be themselves. Remember, support doesn’t mean fixing or solving; it means being present, offering encouragement, and respecting their pace. Sometimes, the simplest gestures—a kind word, a warm embrace, or even silence shared in understanding— can make all the difference.
By Ryan Brynesth